My Secret Life



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Reblogged from madgirlf
when she was 7, a boy pushed her on the playground
she fell headfirst into the dirt and came up with a mouthful of gravel and lines of blood chasing each other down her legs
when she told her teacher what happened, she laughed and said ‘boys will be boys honey don’t let it bother you
he probably just thinks you’re cute’
but the thing is,
when you tell a little girl who has rocks in her teeth and scabs on her knees that hurt and attention are the same
you teach her that boys show their affection through aggression
and she grows into a young woman who constantly mistakes the two
because no one ever taught her the difference
‘boys will be boys’
turns into
‘that’s how he shows his love’
and bruises start to feel like the imprint of lips
she goes to school with a busted mouth in high school and says she was hit with a basketball instead of his fist
the one adult she tells scolds her
‘you know he loses his temper easily
why the hell did you have to provoke him?’
so she shrinks
folds into herself, flinches every time a man raises his voice
by the time she’s 16 she’s learned her job well
be quiet, be soft, be easy
don’t give him a reason
but for all her efforts, he still finds one
‘boys will be boys’ rings in her head
‘boys will be boys
he doesn’t mean it
he can’t help it’
she’s 7 years old on the playground again
with a mouth full of rocks and blood that tastes like copper love
because boys will be boys baby don’t you know
that’s just how he shows he cares
she’s 18 now and they’re drunk
in the split second it takes for her words to enter his ears they’re ruined
like a glass heirloom being dropped between the hands of generations
she meant them to open his arms but they curl his fists and suddenly his hands are on her and her head hits the wall and all of the goddamn words in the world couldn’t save them in this moment
she touches the bruise the next day
boys will be boys
aggression, affection, violence, love
how does she separate them when she learned so early that they’re inextricably bound, tangled in a constant tug-of-war
she draws tally marks on her walls ratios of kisses to bruises
one entire side of her bedroom turns purple, one entire side of her body
boys will be boys will be boys will be boys
when she’s 20, a boy touches her hips and she jumps
he asks her who the hell taught her to be scared like that and she wants to laugh
doesn’t he know that boys will be boys?
it took her 13 years to unlearn that lesson from the playground
so I guess what I’m trying to say is
i will talk until my voice is hoarse so that my little sister understands that aggression and affection are two entirely separate things
baby they exist in difference universes
my niece can’t even speak yet but I think I’ll start with her now
don’t ever accept the excuse that boys will be boys
don’t ever let him put his hands on you like that
if you see hate blazing in his eyes don’t you ever confuse it with love
baby love won’t hurt when it comes
you won’t have to hide it under long sleeves during the summer
and
the only reason he should ever reach out his hand
is to hold yours

Fortesa Latifi - Boys Will Be Boys 

(And Why That Is The Stupidest Thing You Could Ever Say To A Little Girl)

(Source: madgirlf, via divingforsonataarctica)

Reblogged from dekomoron-archive-deactivated20
safe-behind-bars:

IM SHARING THIS FUCKING TWICE IN A ROW BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO FUCKING IDEA HOW PERFECT THIS IS.

safe-behind-bars:

IM SHARING THIS FUCKING TWICE IN A ROW BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO FUCKING IDEA HOW PERFECT THIS IS.

(via electrifiedhobbits)

Reblogged from artsyreceptionist

silent-fun:

WORD

1. I want to give this girl a big hug!!!!
2. HELLS YES!!!
3. Anyone who disagrees or argues with this has obviously never had this happen to you. It’s fucking terrifying!!!!

(Source: youtube.com)

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GGGAAAGGGHHHH!!!! I can’t remember my Grey Enterprise intern info. I applied over three months ago!!!!!

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shadowwolfsmith:

Guess who? ;D 

Hint- back right enthusiasts.

shadowwolfsmith:

Guess who? ;D 

Hint- back right enthusiasts.

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ridthisfuckingcancer:

eyepostdoomudge:

hamcheese35x:
This is “war.” This is Gaza. This is Palestine. Do you not see how bad things have gotten? And wats all over the news? Lebron going back to Cleveland. How can that be anywhere near the media when this is going on? How can you people turn a blind eye and pretend like this isn’t going on? It’s pretty pathetic. I posted a few videos and a few pictures and instead of everyone sharing and trying to raise awareness I lost over a hundred followers. To hell with you all who unfollow me because I show “bloody” pictures. Like I said in my previous post, I’m sorry for ruining your perfect day for a few seconds when this mans life has been ruined forever, like thousands of others in Gaza now. NOW! DO YOU PEOPLE NOT UNDERSTAND THIS IS CURRENTLY HAPPENING? RIGHT NOW AS YOU READ THIS PEOPLE ARE DYING?! IS IT SO HARD FOR YOU TO RAISE AWARENESS? IS IT? WHAT IN GODS NAME IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE? HOW CAN YOU BE OKAY WITH NOT KNOWING ABOUT WHATS GOING ON?!? HOW.


Its because most Americans do not give a shit what happens in other countries,to other people.But if it WAS happening to American’s all of a sudden,they’d give a shit. Priorities in America have been far outta whack for a long,long time. And it’s sad. Who gives a fuck who’s American,and who isn’t? We’re all human beings sharing space on the same planet,only divided by lines on a map

Omg!!! I feel so sorry for that poor man. That child did not deserve this. It’s times like these I hate being American. We DO have our priorities out of whack. We are oblivious to the suffering, unhelpful to the needy, and unyielding to the oppressed. We could see a homeless person and deny them $10 to buy some food for the day, but the minute we need some money, we cry and beg anyone for $50 for a movie ticket, $20 for new gadgets, or $100 for a pair of shoes. We have no peripheral  view in life. We see what we want, and will do everything in our power to get it. We also stereotype to the extreme. After 9/11, ever Muslim or Indian was immediately a terrorist. This picture shows how wrong we are. Did that man cause any harm to us? No. Did he threaten to hurt us? No. But when we see his ethnicity, we don’t care that his child was just killed in such a brutal, horrific way. He may have wen seen it happen. He may have been sitting on his step, watching his child playing ball, or telling her a story when suddenly a blast takes the life from his baby. I really hate being American sometimes.

ridthisfuckingcancer:

eyepostdoomudge:


hamcheese35x:

This is “war.” This is Gaza. This is Palestine. Do you not see how bad things have gotten? And wats all over the news? Lebron going back to Cleveland. How can that be anywhere near the media when this is going on? How can you people turn a blind eye and pretend like this isn’t going on? It’s pretty pathetic. I posted a few videos and a few pictures and instead of everyone sharing and trying to raise awareness I lost over a hundred followers. To hell with you all who unfollow me because I show “bloody” pictures. Like I said in my previous post, I’m sorry for ruining your perfect day for a few seconds when this mans life has been ruined forever, like thousands of others in Gaza now. NOW! DO YOU PEOPLE NOT UNDERSTAND THIS IS CURRENTLY HAPPENING? RIGHT NOW AS YOU READ THIS PEOPLE ARE DYING?! IS IT SO HARD FOR YOU TO RAISE AWARENESS? IS IT? WHAT IN GODS NAME IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE? HOW CAN YOU BE OKAY WITH NOT KNOWING ABOUT WHATS GOING ON?!? HOW.

Its because most Americans do not give a shit what happens in other countries,to other people.But if it WAS happening to American’s all of a sudden,they’d give a shit. Priorities in America have been far outta whack for a long,long time. And it’s sad. Who gives a fuck who’s American,and who isn’t? We’re all human beings sharing space on the same planet,only divided by lines on a map

Omg!!! I feel so sorry for that poor man. That child did not deserve this. It’s times like these I hate being American. We DO have our priorities out of whack. We are oblivious to the suffering, unhelpful to the needy, and unyielding to the oppressed. We could see a homeless person and deny them $10 to buy some food for the day, but the minute we need some money, we cry and beg anyone for $50 for a movie ticket, $20 for new gadgets, or $100 for a pair of shoes. We have no peripheral view in life. We see what we want, and will do everything in our power to get it.


We also stereotype to the extreme. After 9/11, ever Muslim or Indian was immediately a terrorist. This picture shows how wrong we are. Did that man cause any harm to us? No. Did he threaten to hurt us? No. But when we see his ethnicity, we don’t care that his child was just killed in such a brutal, horrific way. He may have wen seen it happen. He may have been sitting on his step, watching his child playing ball, or telling her a story when suddenly a blast takes the life from his baby.

I really hate being American sometimes.

(via electrifiedhobbits)

Reblogged from johnlockhusbands

johnlockhusbands:

In the train bomb scene I bet John was thinking “At least I get to die with him this time” because watching him jump last time was too much and he loved him enough to go with him.. at this point he’d probably given up any hope of romance with him as they are about to die,but at least he’ won’t have to live without him now~’ 

No that’s ok, I didn’t need those happy emotions. You can have them

Reblogged from ihavenotfailed